Hey everyone, I need to vent a bit. So, one of my closest friends just dropped a bombshell announcement on me, and I can’t shake this feeling of crappiness since. It’s not that I’m not happy for them, but it feels like my own issues and emotions are getting the best of me. Has anyone else felt this way before? How did you cope with these conflicting emotions? I’d appreciate any advice or shared experiences. Thanks in advance for listening!
I would feel terrible if I were in your position and I know I will feel the same way when I hear about more pregnancy announcements. You’re not a bad person at all, in fact quite the opposite. We’re in this together. 
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, OP. I can relate, as two of my college roommates also recently announced their pregnancies back to back. It’s a tough situation to be in. Pregnancy announcements can be hard to swallow, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Your emotions are valid and you’re not alone in this. Hang in there and know that you’re not a terrible person for feeling this way. Sending hugs and support your way! 
I appreciate your friend’s approach in personally informing you about their pregnancy news. I recently had a similar experience with a friend who texted me about their IVF success, showing consideration. On the other hand, my family surprised us with a pregnancy announcement after our IVF failed, which was difficult. Despite these challenges, I feel more equipped to handle future announcements. It can be tough when those around you are starting families while you face difficulties. It’s okay to feel sad or upset. Sending love .
I have learned that it is okay to feel both happy for someone else and sad for oneself at the same time. It is important to prioritize your own well-being and set boundaries to protect yourself from triggers. A true friend will understand and respect your need for space or to be treated normally in difficult situations.
It’s completely understandable that you’re not feeling your best right now. Going through this is tough, so it’s okay to not always be positive or present for others. Don’t be afraid to step back from relationships to focus on your own well-being.
I’ve experienced something similar. My best friend was actively trying for her second child and a day before I found out that none of my embryos made it, she texted me to share her exciting news of being pregnant. She told me privately before announcing to the group, which I appreciate as she was considerate of my feelings. However, it still stings and I can’t help but feel guilty for feeling jealous, upset, and envious initially.