Hey everyone, I’m reaching out because I find it hard to be as supportive as I’d like to be for my wife lately. She’s been going through a tough time and I want to be there for her in the best possible way. Sometimes I feel like I just don’t know what to say or do to make things better for her. I want to be her rock, but I’m feeling lost. Any advice on how I can be more supportive and understanding? Any personal experiences or tips are highly appreciated. Thanks in advance for your help.
Great job being a supportive husband. I understand the struggles of being a 38-year-old stepmom dealing with fertility issues and losses. It’s important to be there for her, ask what she needs, and remember to never give up hope. We’re in this together, no matter what obstacles come our way. Stay strong and remember that there is always a chance for success, even in this challenging situation. Let’s stand in solidarity through this difficult journey.
Be the person she can rely on for anything. Be diligent in your research, ask difficult questions, and be fully engaged. While she puts in the effort, you need to be her anchor. I had no prior knowledge, but now I am the one ensuring everything is correct from our provider. I am essentially her emotional support spouse. 
In my opinion, focus on managing everyday tasks to reduce her stress levels. For example, my husband helped by taking over cooking during our IVF journey, which was a major relief for me. I suggest assisting with logistics like scheduling appointments, medication management, finances, and communication with pharmacies. It can be overwhelming, so sharing these responsibilities can make a big difference.
My husband is amazing because he is always there for me during every step of our IVF journey. From egg retrieval to receiving results, we are in it together as a team. I never feel alone because he is by my side, supporting me every step of the way.
Help her find ways to reduce her workload.
To improve the chances of implantation, consider testing embryos with PGT and following medication regimen. Ultimately, success may come down to luck and the number of viable embryos. Wishing you good luck!
My husband has grown into a supportive role in my journey with the help of my friend. He attends appointments, manages all meds, and communicates with family. This includes providing updates on my pregnancy to close friends and family upon request.
We didn’t have a great experience with him coming to my appointments, as I found it unhelpful and it made me feel on edge. Instead, he stays home and takes care of chores and cooking, and does injections unless I ask. I take on the emotional toll of treatment. I wish he would do more research and keep up with knowledge. It’s been tough lately, so we need to cut each other some slack. Best outcomes to both of us!
I appreciate all of the kind comments. I aim to alleviate as much of her workload as possible. I handle all of the cooking and finances, and now I just need to ensure a peaceful home for her to reduce stress. Good luck to us!
Her egg retrieval was successful, with 43 eggs retrieved. 38 of them have matured and 32 have been fertilized. We are now waiting for the PGT testing. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers, as I am reading all your comments and updates.