Hey everyone,
I find myself in a bit of a tricky situation. My best friend, who I deeply trust and care about, lives in another state. I’ve been thinking about starting a family and would love for him to be the father, but we’re not in a romantic relationship. I’ve heard about IVF as an option, but I’m curious if anyone has experience or advice on how to navigate this unique situation. Would IVF be the best route to go, or are there other alternatives I should consider? Any insights or tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Consider trying out “Mosie Baby” as an at-home IUI kit. Make sure to consult with a lawyer and doctor before proceeding. It is important to have all agreements in writing, even if custody is not a concern now. Testing the sperm for any male factors and considering carrier screening is also crucial.
IVF can be costly, but personally I wish I had the chance to undergo the procedure for free after spending $27k on three rounds of retrievals. 
In the US, various clinics may have specific requirements for known donors, primarily to address legal and parental concerns. Working with a clinic ensures clear guidelines are set. The clinic likely mandates donors to be registered in their system with the recipient. Additional requirements may include location of sample production and qualifications for being a donor. To determine the best treatment approach based on your prognosis, age, goals, etc., it would be advisable to consult with a doctor. They can also offer guidance on the donor aspect.
FDA regulations mandate a lengthy and complex procedure that involves quarantining sperm for 180 days. Psych evaluations and legal agreements are also required before beginning the process. Medical testing costs can range from 3-7k depending on the facility, in addition to paying for each sample (>$500 each) if using an IVF center and classifying the donor as “known”. Consider classifying the donor as a domestic partner to potentially reduce these requirements. Another option is to use a Mosie baby kit for at-home insemination at no cost.
Consider reaching out to Seed Scout! They specialize in connecting sperm donors with recipient parents and can also assist with navigating the legal and medical components of known donation.
I’m just wondering if it might be simpler to do things the traditional way instead?
Before taking any actions, consulting with a lawyer is essential.
Consulting with a lawyer before taking any action is essential.
Consider trying out “Mosie Baby”, an at-home IUI kit. It is important to consult with a lawyer and a doctor before proceeding. It is recommended to have all agreements in writing to avoid any potential custody issues. Additionally, testing the sperm quality is crucial, especially considering the impact of age on male fertility and possible male factor infertility.
IVF can be costly, if only I had the opportunity to undergo the process for free! Unfortunately, it took me three rounds of retrievals at $27k each.
In the US, different clinics may have varying requirements for known donors because of legal and parental implications. It is beneficial to go through a clinic for clear guidelines. The clinic likely requires donors to be registered in their system with you, along with additional qualifications for producing samples and being a donor. The type of treatment will depend on your prognosis, age, and goals so it would be best to consult with a doctor to assess your situation. They can also provide guidance on the donor process.
FDA regulations require a lengthy and complex process, including quarantining sperm for 180 days. Both parties must undergo psych evaluations and have lawyer agreements in place before proceeding. Medical testing costs range from 3-7k depending on the facility. Additionally, payment is required for each sperm sample given (over $500 each). These requirements apply if the donor is classified as a “known donor” at an IVF center. Classifying the donor as a domestic partner may reduce these requirements, but it is uncertain. Alternatively, using a Mosie baby kit for at-home insemination could be a cost-effective option.
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Consider reaching out to Seed Scout! They specialize in connecting sperm donors and recipient parents, helping navigate the legal and medical complexities of known donations.
I’m just curious, wouldn’t it be simpler to do it the traditional way?