Hey everyone, I could really use some advice right now. Recently, I’ve been in a situation that’s been making me doubt myself a lot. I need some perspective to help me figure out if I’m being unreasonable or not.
I don’t want to go into too much detail, but let’s just say it involves a disagreement with a close friend and now I’m questioning whether I should have handled things differently. Am I overreacting? Am I being too sensitive? Or maybe I’m not being assertive enough?
I know that everyone has their own opinions, but I could really use some support and honest feedback. So please, tell me I’m not being unreasonable. Thank you in advance for
Don’t feel overwhelmed, this process is significant. As a FTD, I was heartbroken when I had to miss an ultrasound due to work commitments. Life happens and plans may change, but know that you have a supportive community here for you. Stay positive, we’re all rooting for you!
What is going through his mind? He definitely needs to decline his brother’s invitation and attempt to reschedule his camping trip.
You’re not being unreasonable. My husband also seemed disconnected from the situation at times, like when he agreed to go to a festival with friends on a day that could have been our FET date. While it ended up not being the date, he was willing to cancel his plans if it was, but I was annoyed that I had to remind him. I understand your frustration. In my opinion, I would cancel the camping trip and let him know he can’t take care of his brother’s animals.
Have you informed him that you will need his support during that time? His brother can always ask someone else.
As a husband, I agree that you are not overreacting at all. I would be worried if he was seriously thinking about leaving for six weeks. It’s important for him to support you and be there when needed. This could also affect his ability to take time off in the future for you or future kids. I’m working hard now to build up some flexibility for when we need it.
Absolutely not! What on earth does he believe he is doing?
An ectopic pregnancy poses a significant risk, not only due to the loss of the pregnancy, but also because of the fear it instills. If my husband exhibited such behavior, I would seriously contemplate postponing the FET until he shows more dedication.
I did some PIO injections on my own while traveling for work, but it was difficult to manage and I only did one side.
I would be extremely upset, despite usually being quite rational.
By allowing this behavior, you are risking becoming a single mom while married. Your husband will continue to behave this way, only now you will be dealing with a newborn instead of a PIO shot. It’s time for your husband to mature and reassess his priorities.
I don’t believe your actions are unreasonable. My husband wanted to travel during my stims, but I needed his support and communication. He was understanding once I expressed my needs. However, he hasn’t been able to attend my FET or ultrasounds due to work trips. I prioritize his income to cover IVF costs. Personally, the FET appointment was simple and ultrasounds were quick. Every experience is different. Good luck to you!
You’re not mistaken. I handled all my Stims and PIO shots myself, with my doctor marking the spot on my butt for guidance. My husband was minimally involved, only present for retrieval and providing his specimen. I faced severe OHSS and a hospital stay, where I was visited but mainly on my own. Bring a book and other distractions to cope with his absence, but know you can handle this independently. Despite my ectopic pregnancy and surgery, I had a successful transfer. I traveled to Florida with my 9-year-old for support during the process, while my husband was at work. Good luck with your transfer!
I differ in perspective, as I handled all the appointments and procedures for IVF on my own. My husband was updated when necessary, and despite not being actively involved, he is a great father. I believe each couple should do what works for them in terms of support during IVF. It made more sense for us to continue our normal lives without putting everything on hold for the process.
You are not crazy at all. While it’s understandable to have a business trip or meeting, leaving you to go camping or take care of his brother’s business is a different story. I wouldn’t allow it and would let him know that if he’s not willing to support us, we need to reevaluate our relationship. His priority should be his family and obligations to both of us.
In order for him to be actively present during the baby’s birth, he must begin being actively involved immediately. Please listen to my advice, as I have learned from my own experiences.
I admire their ability to stay detached while I am overwhelmed by emotions and misery. Feeling some type of way :).