I never imagined I’d be typing this post, but here I am - 15 days post-transfer, and my hCG has plummeted to 4. It’s official - another failed IVF cycle. The rollercoaster of emotions is overwhelming - heartbreak, anger, disappointment… you name it. After much reflection and tears, I’ve made the bittersweet decision to step away from IVF for good. It feels like the end of a long, exhausting journey filled with hope and shattered dreams. Thank you for all the support and love throughout this tough chapter. It’s time to focus on healing and finding a new path.
I’m sorry to hear that, friend. I am also nearing the end of my IVF journey with 2 untested embryos left from my 5th cycle. I’ve been finding support in the r/IVFchildfree community and it has been really helpful. After my 4th cycle, I was feeling suicidal and was not prepared for the emotional toll of IVF. Remember to seek help from your GP for a mental health care plan and consider antidepressants if needed. My psychologist has been a huge support in healing my heartbreak. Take care of yourself in the coming weeks.
I apologize, sweetheart. In my recent transfer cycle, while getting a scan, my nurse commented on my weight gain and asked if I was already pregnant. This insensitive remark overlooks the fact that I cannot conceive naturally and was on high doses of steroids leading up to the procedure. It’s unfortunate how they seem to forget that we are real individuals with genuine feelings.
Are these embryos tested? On average, it takes 2-3 tested embryos for one successful live birth. It becomes statistically more difficult to obtain euploid embryos by age 38. At 30, around 65% of embryos are euploid, with a 60% chance of success for a euploid embryo.
I understand what you’re going through, I’ve been in the same situation multiple times and it’s really tough. Experiencing failed IVF can be incredibly draining and make you feel like you’re losing all hope. I myself have had three failed frozen embryo transfers out of two egg retrievals and just went through my third egg retrieval at the end of July. Today I am 10 days post a day 3 fresh transfer, but unfortunately the home pregnancy test came back negative. I don’t even feel like taking my medication at this point.
What influenced your decision to select Thailand over Australia for medical treatment? I always assumed Australia had superior clinical care.
Consider coming to Delhi in India for another round of IVF treatment as the doctors are more dedicated and professional here.
Love and support to you. Your strength and advocacy as a well-informed patient is clear, and it’s truly unfair that this outcome didn’t work in your favor.
The primary concern is the lack of treatment for Endo and Adenomyosis. It would have been beneficial to at least have you undergo suppression. I also have both conditions and have found that three months of Depot Lupron and Letrozole is often the most effective approach. If your previous clinic didn’t address your Endo and adeno, especially after failed transfers, they may have not set you up for success. It may be wise to take a step back, focus on things that bring you joy, and consider trying a different clinic in the future. Taking a break is completely understandable, but remember that you can always come back to IVF if you choose. Another clinic or different approach could make a significant difference. Consider looking into insurance coverage or grants for fertility treatment. Prioritize clinics that offer PGT-A testing if possible.
I’m sorry to hear that the industry you’re in is toxic and causes anxiety. It’s unfortunate that your health concerns were ignored.
Could you please share the protocol that you used?
I understand your experience - I too had to stop after unsuccessful transfers and a canceled cycle, which has had a significant impact on my mental health. IVF has been the hardest experience for me, more so than dealing with infertility itself. The emotional toll has been overwhelming and unexpected, leaving me feeling angry towards my clinic. I’m sorry you’re also going through this.
Sending you all the positive vibes I have, hoping for better days ahead. I wish you didn’t have to endure such pain. Stay strong.
I apologize and sending you much love.
You are allowed to feel how you do. Have you completed two transfers so far?
Adeno would require a minimum of one to three months of treatment with Lupron.
I apologize for this, but if you don’t mind me asking, could you please share the name of the clinic you are working with as I am currently going through the process with Jetanin.
I can empathize with your frustrations, as I experienced a similar situation during my initial IVF attempt. Sending you virtual hugs!
I apologize for the roller coaster ride I’ve been on. Dealing with adenomyosis and fibroids can be really tough. I found affordable IVF care in a different state and had success with a 3 month protocol of leuprolide acetate. Unfortunately, my first FET ended in tragedy. If you’re considering another round of IVF, the leuprolide might be worth looking into based on my experience.
I apologize for the situation. I traveled to another country for more affordable procedures, but they were not willing to address my high prolactin, hyperthyroidism, or any other underlying issues. Instead, they only focused on pushing me to do IVF without considering the potential complications. The outcome seemed to be of little significance to them.