Currently experiencing this situation! I had always envisioned having a daughter, but all three of our embryos turned out to be boys. I am finding it difficult to adjust my mindset.
I am amazed by the outcome of one ER at 40! It’s important to remember that we don’t choose the genders of embryos, as we are looking at sex chromosomes. In most countries, gender selection is not allowed. It’s also worth noting that people who conceive naturally through intercourse don’t get to pick the gender either!
Which fertility treatment did you undergo - traditional IVF or ICSI?
Are you considering a second ER? I had a mix of male and female embryos in my first ER, but mainly boys. In my second retrieval, I had much better results with an equal number of girls and boys.
I understand where you’re coming from and I empathize with your feelings. My recent euploid girl transfer failed, and while I just want a healthy baby, my desire for a girl is so strong. It’s frustrating that those without infertility issues can keep trying for their desired gender while I feel limited. It’s important to acknowledge that gender disappointment is a real and painful experience. I’m finding solace in watching videos of boy moms on social media and browsing cute baby boy clothes to lift my spirits. Don’t blame yourself, and know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
You won’t be the same once they’re flourishing within you 
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I am facing the difficult decision of whether to undergo more expensive retrievals or transfer our last remaining boy after my euploid girl failed. It feels like a challenging privilege to have this choice, as I have always desired a girl. Ultimately, I understand the struggle.
I understand now! We had 6 blasts and ended up with 2 euploid girls. I already have a son, but my husband (from my second marriage) wanted a boy. Now we have two untested embryos that we suspect may be boys, but we are aiming for euploids.
Ideally, you would like to have three euploids per child, which might be a reason to consider another retrieval if feasible. However, having two male euploids is wonderful, suggesting you may be destined to be a mother of boys. My first embryo creation resulted in 8 blasts, with six females, one XXY, and one male. The male euploid had the highest grade. Despite obtaining two female euploids in that round, their success rates are lower. A second retrieval yielded three blasts (two males, one female) with one euploid, which happened to be male with a high grading. While I’m grateful for having euploids and some females, it would have been nice if they all had similar success rates. It’s puzzling why the males were so strong, especially with mostly females in the first batch.
I am currently going through IVF to try for our second child with the hope of having a girl, since our first child from IVF was a boy. Despite feeling happy, I am also experiencing feelings of grief.
I am 44 years old and currently have two embryos undergoing testing. At 42, I had a successful FET with a euploid girl, but unfortunately experienced a loss due to PPROM in the second trimester. Since then, I have had several rounds of testing resulting in all boys. While I should be happy that I am still able to create euploid embryos at my age, I am feeling extremely depressed about the situation. My husband and I have teenage boys at home and are really hoping for a specific outcome.
I have always envisioned myself as the parent of a son in my adult life, creating a name list and picturing our future together. After testing 4 embryos through PGTA, all of them turned out to be female. I was unexpectedly saddened by this outcome, even though I should be celebrating the fact that 3 of them are euploids.
I comprehend. All of my euploids have XY chromosomes. Despite quietly mourning, I am also thankful for having these possibilities.
Wow! That’s an amazing outcome for being 40! I started my IVF journey around the same age and it’s so tough to deal with the attrition rates. We were lucky enough to afford 3 rounds of retrieval, but I felt disappointed when the first two rounds only produced male embryos. The third round finally gave us a male embryo and I knew it was meant to be. It has changed my perspective because I realize I have so much to teach my children, whether they are boys or girls.
I was lucky to have success on our first transfer and I am completely in love with my son. Your feelings are completely valid and I hope you receive baby dust soon! 
I don’t understand why they would disclose the genders of aneuploid embryos. It seems insensitive.
I experienced something similar. Out of 5 embryos, all were male. After two more cycles to try for a girl, only 1 out of 10 tested embryos were female. I understand the disappointment. I am 35, so making euploids was easier for me. My grades are not as good as yours; I have never made an A. I am okay with a boy, but I also want a daughter. I feel like I deserve one after all I have been through, even though I know it may not be true. Having 2 euploids at 40 is impressive, showing you have many good eggs left. Perhaps you could consider trying again.
I can relate to this. During my first retrieval, we were thrilled to get 4 euploid embryos, 2 boys and 2 girls. We hoped for one of each, but only my son implanted. In our second retrieval, we got 4 embryos, but the only female was aneuploid. We’re keeping her frozen while we decide what to do. We’re finished with retrievals now that we’re over 40. I feel lucky to have my second son, but it was emotional to give away the baby girl things we saved. I’m sad about what could have been, but that’s okay. My sister, who had no fertility issues, also has all boys. That’s life.
I understand. We also received 2 euploid embryos after our initial egg retrieval. We were unaware of the genders. Fortunately, the initial transfer was successful. I am worried that our remaining embryo is the same gender, so I am attempting to mentally prepare and remain thankful (if the second transfer is successful).
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I hope that the two embryos develop well and result in the birth of two children.